Couples Therapy

BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS THAT LAST

Do you find yourselves arguing in circles and struggling to see eye to eye?

Has romance fallen on the backburner or become nonexistent?

Deep down, does it seem like you just don’t have fun together anymore?

Maybe the spark has faded, the intimacy isn’t there anymore, and it feels like you merely tolerate each other. Perhaps trust issues have begun to interfere with your connection, either as a result of emotional injuries in a past relationship or your current one. Conversations may feel awkward or charged with tension, so you find yourselves retreating into silence and spending more and more time alone.

For the first time, maybe you’re beginning to ask if it’s time to get help and see a couples therapist.

When Your Relationship Struggles, Every Other Area Of Life Is Usually Impacted

Relationship distress can impact your self-esteem and bring back old wounds and vulnerabilities from the distant past. Eventually, it can reach a point where it spills over into other areas of life, leading to:

• Decreased productivity at work
• Strained family relationships
• Lack of interest in hobbies and passions
• General feelings of dissatisfaction with life

If this sounds anything like you and your partner, it may be time to reach out for professional support. I specialize in helping couples deepen their trust, improve their intimacy, and develop healthier communication skills, enabling them to break out of patterns that no longer serve them.  

There’s No Such Thing As A Perfect Marriage Or Relationship

We all bring our own vulnerabilities and emotional wounds into relationships, which is why romantic relationships can so easily trigger our deepest sensitivities. All of us have different attachment patterns and communication styles—the key is being able to navigate them in a way that helps us turn toward each other rather than away.

Many couples face a variety of challenges as they grow within their relationships. Oftentimes, their differences don’t emerge until years down the road, especially as new responsibilities—such as parenting or family integration—enter the picture. Other couples struggle to remain faithful or maintain their spark as the years go by, letting their intimacy and romance fall on the backburner. Thankfully, these are all issues that a trained and experienced couples counselor can help you work through.

In The Digital Age, Relationships Are More Complicated Than Ever Before

The rise of digital communication has changed the way we communicate, increasing the potential for misunderstanding and making it easier to avoid face-to-face conversation. Additionally, social media has created pressure to compare our relationships to the idealized versions that we see online. And since most of what we see online involves other people’s “highlight reels,” we usually end up feeling like we’re the only ones struggling.

Yet the truth is that you’re not alone—despite what you see online and in public, many couples are in the same boat as you. Maintaining healthy connections is hard, and that’s why seeking therapy is so vital to the long-term success of your marriage or relationship.

Therapy Can Help Couples Enjoy Deeper, More Meaningful Connections

With professional guidance, you and your significant other can transform your relationship challenges into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. By addressing core issues and adopting new skills, you can enjoy improved intimacy, mutual respect, and a renewed sense of partnership. As a couples therapist, my goal is to help you get there one step at a time.

I offer therapy for couples who are married, engaged, and in committed relationships. I have lots of experience working with couples who are in open relationships as well as those in the LGBTQ+ community. Additionally, I provide discernment counseling for couples who are trying to decide whether to stay together or go their separate ways.

What To Expect In Couples Therapy Sessions

In the beginning, I’ll meet with you and your significant other together and discuss what brought you into therapy. After that, I’ll hold sessions with each of you separately so that I can get to know you as individuals and understand the attachment styles and relationship histories you’ve carried into your relationship today. From there, I’ll resume meeting with both of you for the rest of our time together.

As we work together, we’ll explore underlying causes of relationship distress, such as unresolved personal traumas as well as injuries from your marriage or relationship. We’ll set long-term goals based on helping you achieve a deeper understanding of each other and developing healthier patterns of interaction. Each session will be tailored to fit your unique dynamics and needs, ensuring that all interventions are respectful of individual values and relationship goals.

The TJK Approach To Marriage And Couples Therapy

I am trained in a wide range of approaches and draw from a diverse toolkit of skills to help couples address relationship issues more effectively. Depending on what works best for you and your partner, I may use:

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you explore underlying emotions and develop a deeper sense of connection, allowing you to share vulnerabilities from a place of safety and validation.
• The Gottman Method to assess the strengths and weaknesses in your marriage and provide you with valuable tools for resolving conflict.
• Imago Therapy to help you understand how childhood wounds may be impacting the way you show up in your relationship today.
• The Doherty Approach to help you make sense of your relationship’s patterns and practice new ways of communicating and relating to each other.

Discernment Counseling to offer short-term guidance if you and your partner are unsure of whether to stay together or get a divorce.

Through my eclectic, emotionally-focused approach to couples counseling, I believe that I can help you and your significant other build a stronger foundation of support and understanding together, allowing your relationship or marriage to thrive for years to come.

You May Have Some Questions About Couples Counseling…

Breathe New Life Into Your Marriage Or Relationship

You and your partner don’t have to keep feeling stuck. Couples therapy can give you the tools and the knowledge to create a happy, more nurturing connection. To learn more about my couples counseling services, you can schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation.